I Have A Say Thanks to My Mom and Dad!!!

Being the oldest of 11, I am so thankful, especially now, for my Mom and Dad saying "yes" to life! Growing up, we never had a ton of money. My Dad was a high school chemistry teacher and my parents decided from the beginning that they wanted to have one of them home with us. My mom gave up her teaching career, and raised me, followed by 10 others! My Mom also taught all 11 of us at home for part of our childhood before we would head off to Nativity Catholic Grade School. My Dad worked long hours, eventually earning other degrees so that he could first become dean, then principal, and finally, when I was a sophomore, he was named Roncalli High School's first president. My Dad and Mom both sacrificed SO MUCH for us.

I remember, even as a young person, getting stared at by people, and I remember the comments they would make. I can still hear a dental receptionist asking my Mom "Are these all yours? You know how children are made right?" followed by a real insidious but ditzy chuckle, followed by a secretarial gum crackle. My Mom and Dad were always tight budget wise, and I'm sure at times ached with a desire to not have to take bags of clothes from other families so that we could have clothes. I'm sure my Mom and Dad had desires to simply go to Nordstrom and buy us and give us all our own new clothes and Gameboys and Reebok Pumps etc. I'm sure they at times really wished they could just get a new car and not have to drive a fifteen passenger van around. I'm sure at times they wanted really badly to just go to a restaurant and sit back and enjoy a big expensive meal instead of having to cut coupons and craft together economic meals on the stove.

But they chose life for us, and they chose sacrifice for themselves.

I often think about that ditzy secretary now when our family gets together almost every weekend for dinner to laugh and hang out. Some of the siblings might be out of town or busy with other obligations, but inevitably, all weekend long, every weekend, our family gets together. Sometimes, when we're out at a restaraunt, I see the couples who are alone with each other. They hardly talk to each other and the loneliness is palpable. A part of me feels bad that we're having so much fun with our 8 tables shoved together, telling stories, laughing good hearty and healthy laughs. Sometimes I wonder if one of the couples sitting in the restaurant quietly and solemnly is that dental secretary - who now has piles of money and can eat wherever she wants, but doesn't have hardly anyone to share it with. My heart breaks for the people who are alone, especially the ones who are alone because, when they could have been having children, they instead bought into the contraception lie and lived for themselves only.

I have a say today, and so do my ten younger brothers and sisters, because my parents chose life. Mom and Dad - thanks a million!!!

Sunday, March 11, 2012

A Woman Who Contracepted Now Speaks Out

Anonymous, whose life was affected by the false teachings of our culture, and the birth control pill, has a say:

I have a say because my life was affected by a false understanding of love and the beauty of family and married life. I got married when I had just turned 22. My husband and I used contraception (the birth control pill) while we were completing our college education and we continued as we began our graduate studies. We were both involved in ministry, and were focused more on doing work for the church rather than having a family of own. When my husband wasn’t working as a pastor or I as an educator, we spent our time living as single people, traveling, eating out, enjoying life and seeking entertainment in sports, movies, and other activities. It was a marriage that could not last because we were not offering ourselves to each other as a total gift.

After 5 years, we decided to try to have a child. We began being open to life that year but it was too late. We reached a crisis in our relationship which brought it to an end in a very painful way. At this time, I was introduced to Pope John Paul II’s encyclical, “On the Dignity and Vocation of Women” and I went to a talk that was given by Janet Smith on contraception. Through a great many tears, mixed with joy and sorrow, I began to discover my purpose in life as a woman, as well as the beauty and wonder of my Mother, the Church who was not ashamed to teach the truth about love and sexuality. I am now seeking to offer my life for those who have been led astray, as I was, by a culture that praises death and selfishness over the beauty of holiness and life-giving love.
To read Pope John Paul II’s encyclical on the “Dignity and Vocation of Women”, click here to visit this site:

You may listen to Janet Smith’s talk “Contraception, Why Not?” by clicking here:

1 comment:

  1. Dear Father,
    I saw your video and I decided to link it to my blog.http://americancommissars.blogspot.com. I just want to say keep up the great work, and as a Protestant myself I am fully behind you. God Bless You and keep fighting.